Virgin School follows the emotional and physical journey of a 26 year old virgin as he embarks on a unique four month course for sexually inexperienced men in Amsterdam. The course is designed to boost his sexual confidence. If he makes enough progress the course could end with him losing his virginity to one of the sex therapist coaches.
According to a recent study (by Radio 1, MTV and Durex) the vast majority of people lose their virginity between the ages of 16 and 18. However, there is a small section of society who remain virgins well into middle age. Around 4% of people haven’t had sex by the time they hit 25.
James is one of them. He’s ‘never even got to first base. He says that "Being a virgin you get judged, you’re isolated, an outcast. For me losing my virginity is a rite of passage, it’s about becoming a man and feeling like everyone else, feeling that you’re not abnormal."
James has given up all hope of ever having sex or having a meaningful relationship with a woman but that could all be about to change as he heads off to Virgin School.
Come to Eastern part of the world..India/Nepal/Bhutan etc.. People who are virgin or choose to live unmarried life are being worshipped.. followed like god
There's a unique double-standard when it comes to guys and virginity, I've found. With girls, everyone expects them to retain their virginity for longer than boys. However, with boys if you haven't lost it in high school or earlier, then you're made out to look pathetic. That's not the case! As a 19-year-old virgin female, I find a guy who has enough respect for himself to not just sleep around with anyone very attractive. Don't let yourself feel pressured to nail as many people as possible in order to gain "experience." Every partner is a new challenge, so experience won't matter that much anyway. Taking the time to learn together is what it truly means to lose one's virginity. :)
this is the truly society we are living in
a society full of bulls*it insted of sex and happines.
and taking care of the ecosistem.
Do you know how hard it can be for people like him to ACTUALLY it into a relationship.... and unfortunately women tend to be rather critical of us guys who are not wired like everyone else.
i was pretty much like him up until i was 24, and i still have trouble with even getting close to women, let alone having SEX... Everyone else, i know is either in a relationship, or getting laid anyway. so for people to realise there are people who have issues with it, and getting the help they need is a good thing.
Oh and the majority who say go out and get laid with a prostitute or a shallow women!! If we have issues talking or getting close to those of the opposite sex, then its not going to be bloody hard to those guys
I appreciate James for going on camera, and showing the world about the problems we face. Good for you!
It angers me that the whole RELATIONSHIP aspect and CARING and LOVING thing is over-shadowed by the physical act of sex.
tell those brits to come to america. these shallow insecure women will sleep with anyone that has an accent
I think the experience and age of the 'bitties' is part of allure.
This documentary was so cool!
Some of the comments below have poked fun (pardon the pun) at it, but I found it really touching (pardon the pun).
Seriously though, the sex coach Brigette, as well as the others, are providing such an important service. I can't imagine the inner turmoil and confusion adult virgins must go through.
"Virgin School follows the emotional and physical journey of a 26 year old virgin as he embarks on a unique four month course for sexually inexperienced men in Amsterdam"
For 100 bucks, in almoust every major city, you can embark on a emotional and physical rollercoaster, with a unique (or make that 2) girls (well under 60 yo), regardless of your sexual experience.
Are these people serious ? Took them 4 months to get the poor guy layed, and ironically reduced his chances of getting layed in the future by putting him on camera and revealing his identity. Were they teaching him or were they learning aswell as he went along ?
haha, nothing like getting a rub down from a couple of raunchy bitties.
Hey, what the hell! I'm deeply traumatized.
amsterdam 8 out of 10 girls will say YES. C'mon.
that lady looks like my grandmother O_O
you go James. at least you will be more passionate, and more interested in the actual art of sex than most men and your going to make a woman very happy. listen to your partner when it comes to being intimate and you will have no problems. also remember to have confidence in your self, because if you can do a documentary and show what your workin with for the world to see, then you shouldn't have any problem at all.
At least now I realize why you are so angry in your comments regarding other documentaries.....it all makes sense.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 25 if you chose so but you can clearly see this guys has bigger issue he wants to rationalize the act of making love think of touching women in fact it's simple just like sleeping pissing and eating just let you instinct guide you, your inner beast we all have it but some just don't embrace it or thinks it's wrong to do so.
I totaly agree with one of Randy's comments.
I am 21 years old soon and im still a virgin.
This man was both brave and showed alot of guts doing this.
This makes me more confident about myself and im willing to go out there and give my best.
I think I am only watching this to get a glimpse of Amsterdam because I want to go back their ;/ lol
otherwise this is kind of boring.
Wow! Virginity sure gets the juices flowing doesn't it?
Sexage Commented:Connie wrote : “I think he was exploited by a group of over sexed old ladies that should of never – ever shown there nakedness to the light of day let alone to the world. You are all nasty- nasty woman ! ” It’s women such as Connie, that the greater sisterhood shuns. How disgusting to make such comments on ANY ***** or ******. Her foul mouth is what is really nasty and her advise in other posts is hypocritical. Perhaps instead of spewing out her two faced comments – she might consider growing up a bit and learning about *pheromones instead, (or at the very least, look the word up ) before she goes defacing ANYONES sacred and special parts. And whilst we are on the subject ( Blank) Pheromones just don’t exist -regardless of the marketing hype out there. Other refs available of course, but I wont bother listing them also. You can ‘Google Scholar’ for them. Connie also said..’If we don’t love ourselves then how can anyone else?’ These women in the video have ‘matured and are self loving’. They know whats what. ….And then along comes Connie with her foul mouth and lack of maturity. She can take back all she likes in subsequent posts – but an apology to these wonderful women is what’s really needed. Congratulations to the Grand Women of this documentary and to James for having the courage to ‘educate others in the deeper sexual issues that obviously some people are facing.
Connies respond to Sexage…. You must be very young . Because if you were mature you would not be so vulgar and rude and outright offensive to the point of discust.
Before I look up any words Why don’t you go take some classes on social etiquette, Better yet go get some behavior counseling.
In case you are not intelligent to realize this is a comment section on Documentaries. Which means everyone can comment with whatever their own viewpoint is.And anyone can say way ever they think Not just what you want them to say.
With counseling and perhaps extra anger management you might learn that it is mean and rude and wrong behavior to viciously attack someone for something they wanted to comment.
Something is very wrong with you to attack me when I did not say or do anything to you personally. You just plainly attacked me personally for comments I made on a doc.
You should be ashamed and embarressed and if anyone owes anyone an apology it is you to me.
James and the Like made a Documentery knowing their would be personal comments made pro and against.
when I made my comments it was about the Doc. or to someone else and it was clearly not addressed to you.
Kindly keep your rude mean behavior to yourself and to the Doc. not to me.
You want to make a comment contrary to mine then do so. But do not attack my comments as if you are the almighty and I had no right to my freedom of speech.. Who do you think you are?
I think now you are mentally deranged and I will not tolerate it.
Do you have this problem in all areas of life ?If so don't fret Just stick around here and join the comments and soon enough you will watch yourself grow and you will not be so critical at Judging others as hypocritical. Instead you too will see yourself change in viewpoints of express double thoughts as you think and disscuss with others.
It is a great benefit to join in on discussions that you would of never thought much about.
You will also see that while writing replys you learn about yourself and change and grow.
Be patient with others and you will find others are patient with you. :-)
The two words in my previous post that have been ****** (compliments of the site moderators) both start with the letter V. How very peculiar that in this day and age even the correct terminology for a womans private parts are blanked out. It's more than sad. It's pathetic. And when it's in the comment section of 'such a video', it's as two faced and as hypocritical as baby Connie is.
I hope you do NOT feel out of place and I think in your circumstance it is Ok. Reason being if you have not found that special someone of which you want to share the intimacy with then you are better off not doing anything.
Men are different on most parts I think.. I think they can deal better with the hit and runs.
But us woman need to connect our emotions with the sensuality of Love making. We feel sex within our Hearts but Men are just like little busy bees and any flower will do to when it comes to aiming their antennas.
You are doing the right thing.I would Not push the Idea that you are happiest not having that special friend or mate to share intamacy with. Otherwise you may just send out farmones Of leave me alone.
Instead try thinking more like I am waiting for my special playmate and think positive thoughts like I am excited that I will enjoy myself fully when my playmate and i find each other.
Think thoughts that he is out there and he will be the special one you can share your intamacy with.
You can draw him nearer faster by Knowing he is just around the corner and you are so glad you waited.
What ever you are thinking is what will be.
I will share a secret with you... Get to know yourself as the beautiful person and woman you are. No matter what you look like. Think of yourself as a beautiful Diva . Imagine yourself as a Goddess and feel like it and you will be shocked at how many men are attracted to you.
All I have to do is feel it. Even if I am in the car and men are walking in a different direction. I have seen Men feel my presence and they do double and triple takes . I can plainy see they felt my powerful presence and looked or turned backward to see what they feel behind their heads.
Try it and see what I mean it really works.
We draw to us what we think and feel. SO please do not think or feel anything less then the Godess or Diva that you are.
Men are attracted by what we send out..... Only send out the message you want them to hear and feel.
We are the beautiful vessels that they need us to be.If we dont Love ourselves then how can we exspect anyone else to?
Hope this helps Beautiful Racheal A Goddess of Love :-)
I'm a 26 year old virgin. I had an opertunity to lose my virginity but he was 7 years older than me and he kind of creaped my out. I have not been on a date in 3 years and I don't expect to go on anther one. I tried a few times in college but guys are creaped out by me. I often used my autism as an excuse for not dating but in reality I just don't want to I'm happier single
Oh my god I want to hit this guy. Screw the program this guy should have just ended it a long time ago. He is so pathetic it hurts!
I agree that it was like a car wreck... you want to look away but you just can't. Kinda gross.
Thanks for such web! i like it
Sex =/= love
I disagree -- I think James needed the therapy, perhaps even more than he needed the actual sex, and he'd never have gotten this by simply flopping down with a prostitute. I doubt he would have been able to perform with a hooker even if he summoned up the nerve to hire one. The work that these women do is wonderful in my opinion. And to those who look at them as old and unattractive, you need to do some growing yet. Love is beautiful regardless of the outer package!
This was so unsettling to watch. It looked like he was going to lash out and kill the old bag instead of ƒucking her.
what a dumb-ass doc
why is he wearing a nappy? and under boxer shorts??? what in the hell?!?? I AM SO DISTURBED.
@ Paula, Are you hinting to James for a Date?
The fact about the old woman. It really takes a lifetime to know anything about the complexities of sex the more you think you know the more there is. It's not just an Olympic act that would be too easy.
Everyone's comments are funny. Society is so hooked up on losing their virginity at 16 that men are always blamed for being jerks, lying, cheating etc...If you don't sleep around you are seen as an outcast. Well some girls should not complain that men are they way they are because they might be the first ones to laugh at a man who is a virgin at 27 years old. He obviously never lied to a girl to sleep with her; unlike a few guys I know.
People are soooo mean...and they can be so insensitive.
I admire James' courage to do this movie. I also admire what the ladies in the school do - they take care of the feelings first and try to heal wounds and only then teach the basics of touching and being intimate. I'd never consider them whores. If James had been with a whore instead, I think he might have suffered an anxiety attack and run away, or just f--k her and not really solve his intimacy issues.
I am a 27 year old woman, I had 2 sexual partners all my life and married the virgin one :). And I can say that the love making with a virgin man can be the best if there is intimacy and no judging.
James, you seem to be a great guy, trust yourself and you'll find the right girl. Girls who laughed at you are not worth a dime. And you look great too, so you should be proud of your body. Good luck!
Damn! I get two thirds of the way through, then "video unavailable". This kind of unpleasant and anticlimactic experience does kinda bring me back to my first time, though.
Sometimes our wishes will remain unmet. Go figure... I still fail to see the academic side of the virgin school despite their appearance. However I am sure between the three of them they have a lot of mileage. Agreed hands on experience is what counts in the end.
I also think that there are far better ways of dealing with virginity. If a person is maladjusted before then afterwards they would be screwed up even more.
Besides if a person is incapable of attracting a mate there are reasons that it is so. Not everyone is fit to have offspring which is ultimately the goal of intercourse. It is only natural.
Although I didn't really want to get involved in an argument on a documentary website, the fact that you need to insult has drawn me in. Throughout the documentary the women refer to the fact that they are trained in these areas and are cleary by appearance, not just old age prostitutes who take pleasure in sex with vunerable men. Also, I'm well aware of Amsterdams culture on all sides, visiting it on my 18th was an eye-opener.
However, the general perception of Amsterdam is negative on this subject matter (also referenced in part 1 (I bet you missed that aswell)). I've no reason to commend this place, just identifying that it might be quite useful for 30+ virgins to try out.
I know if I hit that age and was still untapped, I'd be first on the list.
Well Luke I feel that you are a p@#$%. Academically educated? Must have missed that part... and btw Amsterdam is a great city architecturally and culturally. Virgin school discredits itself.
Seems to me like a few old bat hookers have found a market for their services.
I feel that the large amount of negative feedback on this documentary is unjust. The fact that there is an organization that helps these men is hugely beneficial to them. I think the fact that it is based in Amsterdam appears to discredit it, however these women are cleary profesional and educated in this field academically aswell as socially. Those that review it as a 'car crash' etc are cleary immature and narrow minded.
The documentary is called 'Virgin School', What did you expect?
OK ! With intentions of stealing a couple minutes from my busy day to read and discards some of my many emails I opened an email and started reading the words from your post.
Consider please that I was stealing time and in a rush, Then perhaps you can understand why I was offset momentarily.
I had to do some double take reading to figure out what I was reading. At first I thought I had accidentally opened a spam mail involving Porn.
However I quickly realized I was reading your post from The TDF site. Thanks for the Laugh. I like your factual, humorous point of view.
James may be to close to the story to appreciate your humor but someday he will look back and giggle with you. As for me you are like an Alka Selzer fizzling with humor calming an upset stomach.
Good view !
Can i touch you everywhere?......Yes you can touch me everywhere!!!.....Can i touch your nipples?.....Yes you can touch my nipples!!!!......:@ :D lolzzz
OMG the worst doc i ever watched.........it was like a slow train wreck....thru an old lady's ass!!! uuuuuuuufffffffffff
Oh ok on a side note......I am happy for him :)
This is something that deffinately falls under the category of:
"OH GOD MAKE ME UNSEE THAT".....
Good on you James!! I really felt for the fella and was so proud of him. I felt a huge surge of empathy for him and was so happy that he has discovered his 'manhood'. Yes, the doco was a bit strange but enlightening... which is what any good doco should be. Usefull for other people in the same predicament (and there's gotta be loads...).
James , you are courageous. You tackled something difficult for you, and succeeded. Ignore all those who belittle this problem as their are many who have the same or like issues, but as you know it is usually a secret.Keep looking for a human connection and congratulations on your job. good Luck to you James.
Trust me there are many here that are just as grateful you do not need to go to that extreme either.
Happy excertion and Happy insertion to you !