Married to the Eiffel Tower
If you thought that men in love with real dolls was strange, wait until you see Married to the Eiffel Tower, which follows these fetishists (all of them, for some reason, female).
Interestingly, Objectum Sexuals - they call themselves OS people - believe their love with the objects are reciprocal and that they can telepathically communicate with them.
Naisho is married to the Eiffel Tower. She has a passion for inanimate objects, and her mission is to fight the stigma surrounding the disorder and create a global network of sufferers - like Amy, in love with a church organ, and Eija Riita, who married the Berlin Wall.
In this compelling documentary about objectum sexual disorder the characters describe just what it's like to be in love with a highly public structure.
To be honest, at the start of the film I was judgmental. However, as the film went on and the Objectum Sexuals explained their emotions for their objects, I realized their feelings were authentic. Although I was flabbergasted by the idea of Objectum Sexuals, I understand that every human has the right to decipher their sexual orientation. That is, if it deems appropriate. I began to discriminate against Objectum sexuals not because of their abnormal sexual orientation but because their relationship's stemmed from a place of selfishness and dominance over the object. In my opinion, there can be immoral sexual orientations. There are people who molest children or partake in beastiality and we consider that inhumane. It is no different than an object not being able to consent to these sexual encounters from Objectum Sexuals. And let's say the objects too were in love with these humans. What if the objects want monogomy? These humans are taking it upon themselves to be in polyamorous relationships with all these objects. Whose to say, the objects aren't jealous of their human's various relationships with other objects? In a relationship, there must be respect. These so called relationships, are solely based on what the humans desire.
This was a very insightful documentary about Objectum Sexuals. I don't feel as if these women are mentally ill or disturbed, they are looking for love and acceptance and found it outside the realm of societal 'norms', there is nothing wrong with that. From watching this documentary I saw pain behind those womens' eyes, and love, and happiness. So what if an object makes them happy? It is probably a LOT healthier then most dysfunctional couples that end up hating each other, or worse later ending up on ID investigate channel for a murder. Some people are ignorant and not open to accepting anything outside of their comfort zones, so just ignore those fools and keep holding your head high ladies.
most of us anderstand about relationship is very problem for us
At first, I laughed, it seemed so absurd but I stopped laughing as I let myself have an open mind and listen to these women's stories. All seem very mentally competent, and they are very much aware that what they possess is not considered "normal," but they don't care. They're happy being who they are and stand up for themselves. A lot of people could learn to be strong like that, unashamed of whom they are and not feeling that they have to conform to a label or image that doesn't necessarily exist, such as as the airbrushed nuclear family.
I think it's very small minded to ridicule these women because they're different. Are they hurting others? No. Are they adding negativity and hate to the world as some are doing in the comments? No. Pastor Mark was correct in saying that Jesus is about love and opening doors, and it was beautiful how sensitive he was to someone whose condition is rather unheard of. I'm a Christian and I do not believe that these women would be condemned for what/ who they love. Loving God and being vessels of love, and being able to still love after horrific things happening to them as opposed to people proposing loving God but showing these women hate or anyone hate and apathy because they're different is what would be condemned.
Do I believe what these women are saying to be true, that objects can have souls and love humans back? I don't know but I won't dismiss it. Even if it could be proven to be a product of their treatment in the past, if they're happy then I wouldn't want to change that. The universe keeps showing itself that humans don't know everything they think they know at any given time, so maybe it's true. We are all made up of energy and life exists on so many levels, so one shouldn't go out of one's way to dismiss what these women have. It's real enough to them, and it is really no one's business but their own. Furthermore, i think there could be far more people than 40 women but due to pressure to conform, others may not admit it. The lack of understanding and empathy shown in the comments demonstrate why more people might hide their "condition."
This documentary was definitely not disturbing in my eyes but revealed a group of people who are loving and considerate and at the end of the day, that's what's important, not what/ who they are romantically/ sexually involved with.
Did anyone consider how the Eiffel Tower felt? Did anyone bother to ask her whether she wanted to be forced into marriage to this woman? Did anyone ask the Eiffel Tower whether she would like to have sex with this woman or can this be considered rape?
I was trying desperately to be open minded and non judgmental while watching this but when they said, "Blah blah is in a loving relationship with a guillotine." I nearly died laughing.
Just think, the only reason she is in love with the Eiffel Tower is because she's alone. Lonely people, definitely not connected people, are very likely to believe inanimate objects have emotions and intentions so falling for an object believed to have emotions and intentions is honestly understandable. A little weird but it's understandable.
after hearing amy's story, it seems as though these people love objects because they are a solid, permanent structure..unlike people who can walk out of your life or die..very sad
If she got splinters from the fence would it be an abusive relationship?
These OS people are whores, especially amy. She married, but tryna get to know the fence and letting the carnival ride get her pantys wet. Just slutty!
I'm speechless at this. I had no idea such people existed. At first I wasn't sure what to believe, whether this attraction towards objects is real or fake for the sake of seeking attention. I'm still a bit skeptical. Nevertheless, they are not harming anyone so everybody should be free to do whatever they want without being laughed at or ridiculed.
what if Golden Gate bridge is cheating on her!!? ;')
These people are lucky enough to feel love and to feel loved in return in their lives. I consider that a success, no matter if it is to a object, a man, a woman or a building. Love is love.
this is sad :( feel so sorry for them, and all this bla bla bla for objects its just to fill a gap
Am sure there is something wrong with their brains as in mentally, because god definitely didnt make us this way. it is sad.
Really Sad :( heart broke when that women said how her parents did not want or love her. Explains so much of her behaviour. Glad that they can talk to other people who can relate to them. However they really do need alot of help and understanding, love and gentleness in the hope they will learn to trust and love another human. We all are born with the need for love. We hunger for it if we do not have it and the lack of it makes our minds sick. Some women/men will settle for unhealthy relationships. Anything to feel loved and love. I wish these people the best of luck in their lives, and really hope they find true happiness, peace, security and Love.
wow, to the narrator's voice and her choice of words. am in love with what she says. it makes me warm and happy i kissed it.
yah its strange BUT at least they are not poking kids.
Those Eiffel Tower souvenirs "are" phallic shaped.
Wow. I thought I had issues on account of my conservative Christian past that's keeping me an unmarried virgin at 33 even though I no longer believe.... but these women REALLY have issues!
What the h*ll is this??? And what the f--k is wrong with that woman and the guilotine? That....ain't.....right! Doesnt anybody remember that Lorena Bobbit "weenie hacker"??.....although?....na, that ain't right either.
so weird
There are men, too. I saw a show recently on Strange Sex or My Strange Addiction or something where there was a man who was having an emotional and sexual relationship with his car, whom he'd named Chase. The car is also male. Sigh.
also... feels soooo sorry for them .... being loved.... by a human ... is the single greatest feeling
people like that make this world unique....
ohhhh where is this generation going to ? ha
OMG! I laughed so hard when the Narrator said so seriously, "Whatshername is in love with a guillotine..." BAHAHAHA!!!!! I mean imagine the sexual relationship with a guillotine?? " You bastard! Why did you just cut my vagina off??"
forgive me for saying ths I don't understand how she can fell in love with a something that does not hit back or share a conversation .
There are parts of the brain that are active when someone looks at or thinks of their lover in an MRI. I wonder if anyone has done actual brain studies on this phenomenon, to see if/why those regions are firing off for these particular triggers. I suspect that's what's happening - some kind of "misfiring".
Having watched this film, I am no longer ashamed to admit that I am involved in a long-term and loving relationship with my back massager, "BOB"
This sort of reminds me of females, bicycles, and railroad tracks....
projecting emotions and states of conciousness onto things that dont have them is scizophrinic. These people need theorpy. They have had hard lives and i feel sorry for them. This was a real sad documentary.
i wish i had that effect on women..
why does she have stool smeared all over her hands when shes fondling the nacht?
Love is a divine state that we all can learn to live in permanently- The truth is ALL humans create an object of love in another person, failing to see that this is a state of consciousness- This person becomes like a drug and we can only feel the love state when the drug is available- Even the thought of the object of love leaving can create a sense of despair and pain- When you realize yourSELF as everyone else, as the Creator of your reality you are able to enter into this love state and dwell in it- You engage in an active romance with the whole world, which is your own self- When you realize your true eternal relationship with the universe things we always "said" in human relationships make sense- Like "i will love you forever" or "i would die for you"
This is just an example of how humans, all humans, mistake the fleeting emotional response we CALL love to objects or people with the natural state of your realized connection to the ALL-
Make everyONE your lover!
Strange and yet beautiful.
Not so strange that it's objects. I love my watch, a friend loves his car, but buildings and walls? However I do agree with Susan Donovan (below) that we should be happy for them rather than alienate them. They seemed to have had a tough time of things previously so cut them a bit of slack. I celebrate them finding love.
Unkeep the faith
I thought this documentary was kind of sensationalistic. I know a few people like these women and I never thought it was that strange. (But I'm biased, I used to have a serious crush on the Chrysler building... but it never went anywhere...)
I don't think I'm one of these object lovers, since my attraction wasn't really very sexual. Also, I fall in love with men much more easily. (And I'm happily married to an amazing one now!)
But, I just don't see anything wrong with these women. They are following their hearts and not hurting anyone. I think some of their stories are very romantic.Why the hate?
I'm happy for anyone who is lucky enough to find true love, it is a rare and precious thing.
Remember when watching documentaries as Vlakto has warned, not everything is real. Some documentaries could be created just to see how far they can get you to believe something.
so what i gather from this doc is basically its idolizing these objects worshipping if you will,,and getting sexual gratification from it? strange, but then again what is strange in society today..do whatever comes into your mind that you want to do.
Ok. Last thought for the night: This doc says all the known individuals that consider THEMSELVES to be "objectum sexuals" are women. Then, what about the guys with lifesize dolls? Those are OBJECTS and not people, aren't they? Most of the doll owners have sexual contact with them, so wouldn't they be male "objectum sexuals" as well? What do you think would be the difference?
Ok, in all SERIOUSNESS. Would these women say they were "born this way" or would any say that they developed this way due to early life traumas, etc? I would postulate a spiritual aspect to the compulsion as well. Would they even want a "cure" if there was a "cure" for this "condition" for lack of a better word?
lol...only 40 women, huh? That means I mus know like 15 of them because they also have very loving relationships with objects lmao. Albeit not as large as the Golden Gate Bridge!
This Doc is Vlatko's way of coming out. He has confessed to me previously his deep love for his mother-in-law's garden wall.
that was really strange!
My wife is in the other room with the window grills, stroking them softly and repeatedly . . . . with a paintbrush! ;-)
well the part with the woman and the oil is a bit weird for my taste
So, ok---still haven't had time to watch this, but I just had to ask: Is this like some kind of fetish? Like a shoe thing, or underware stealing (I read an article where they guy had several hundred stolen panties). A lot of people have weird fetishes.
i can totally understand. the part with the banister made me cry. I have this in part, more of the "Love" of objects then the sex appeal however if it was more difficult for me to get men or woman I could see it going there. I loved my car, more deeply then most people perhaps understood. I never thought me strange for it but I did realize it was unhealthy. I felt that she communicated with me and had a soul. It burdened my immensely any time I tried to part with it. Finally I sold it 6 months ago and I think about it most every day. I miss her. But it was a unhealthy relationship and after 12 years I had to let her go.
I have felt this way about several objects on different levels, and I have to practice detaching regularly. I did not see that this was as strange as people made it out to be in this video, but again, I am not obsessed to that level. I do not have sexual relations or extended verbal conversations with these objects. However the love is deferentially there as is the feel of a soul and awareness. Even if its my love that gives that object the life force and consciousnesses I see.
But what is reality then what we perceive anyway. Perhaps a part of a persons soul goes into objects of there life and that is what these people fall in love with.
Who is to sat that is wrong. With all the bullshit that goes into relationships I can totally understand why someone may choose a fence over a man or woman. Its the constant that these people desire. There objects will never lie, cheat or leave them.
I really tried to watch it with an open mind. I stopped laughing after the first 5 min or so when it sank in that these people are beyond screwed up and you cant just laugh at them (ok you can a little lol). I dont know what to feel for or about them it is just way too creepy
I guess we here are all documentary lovers with the honorary mention to Vlatko (thanks), I guess musicians are in love with their instruments, sportsman, scientists, painters, sculptors, thinkers, I guess Plato is modern when speaking about the soul or the ideas of the objects, I guess the world is not turned to thinkers, I guess we are hunger to communicate, to be listened, to touch the other by expressing, I guess the words turned out to be blades or the contact, I recalled modern philosophers like Kafka and Camus speaking about this autist world we are living in which people forgot to see the souls within the object's creators because they are afraid to be absurd to exist. I recalled Fernando Pessoa saying the poet pretends to feel the pain he ultimately feels. I guess the few that saw this documentary with insight in opposition to the plenty that didn't are the reason for the wall of contact. Unfortunate the one who loves humanity with such passion.
I wasn't going to watch this at first but couldn't help reading the comments, now I am curious and must watch it.